"Widow" Blogs & Blog Posts

It was my birthday yesterday - my first as a widow. I’m not one to hold birthday parties, even when Dani was alive. So, I hope my friends and family understand when I chose to be quiet about it. A day at the mall with my kids (and Harry P...

I can’t stand seeing elderly couples – but ironically, I can’t help staring at them. They’re a glaring and painful reminder of a lost future with Dani. It’s the same thing with fathers and their kids, or grandfathers and their grandkids. I...

And here are the last three: 4. “You’re still young. You can still find someone else.” This may be true but it’s not that simple. He’s not some old car I can just replace when it conks out. My departed husband has a permanent space in my he...

There are certain things I would rather not hear because they don’t help at all, even if they come from well-meaning friends and family.  I’ve compiled a list of them.   These are the first three: 1.    “Are you okay now?” Every t...

I’ve always wondered which is more difficult — being the ill one or being the spouse-cum-primary-caregiver? Before Dani fell ill, his name always came up when assembling an inter-division basketball tournament at the office.   On weeken...

May 27, 2011.  Exactly 8 months since Dani was called home by the Lord. Experts say that in the case of terminal illness, grief starts at the time of diagnosis.   In that case,  it has been about 1 year and 4 months of grieving.   I have always...